You may have heard the old saying, “You can’t love someone else until you love yourself.” That old saying is true in many ways and is even more relevant when you are trying to save your marriage during a recession. If you can’t value yourself, you won’t be able to value the relationship you share with your partner. The result is an unhappy marriage.

Loving Yourself & Helping Your Marriage

Your spouse has probably said “I love you” more times than you can count during your marriage. But do you believe him or her? When you hear those three words, do you also hear a nagging voice in the back of your mind saying, “That can’t be true.” Many of us do. We don’t view ourselves as being special or of deserving love.

While that might sound like a purely personal problem, a lack of self-esteem is bad for a marriage, too. If you don’t believe in your heart that your partner loves you, you are going to have a harder time returning that love. Part of you will always be holding back or putting conditions on your love.

The other reason is if you can’t figure out what makes you a good person you can’t figure out why your marriage is important. If you don’t bring anything to the relationship and if your partner couldn’t possibly love you, why are you still together? As long as you have this doubt, your marriage is vulnerable and the recession is likely to pull it apart at the seams.

A Happy Marriage Starts with You

If you want to save your marriage, the first step is overcoming the self-doubt and recognizing what an amazing person you are. Your spouse would be crazy not to love you! Once you overcome that obstacle, you’ll be able to return that love and build the happy marriage you both deserve.

Getting started in that direction won’t be easy. Most of have been programmed to restrain our adoration for ourselves out of modesty even at the expense of our marriage.

With the help of How to Have a Good Marriage in a Bad Economy, you can find concrete solutions and advice to help you turn this corner and save your marriage. The book will help you learn to love yourself and, as a result, your partner.

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