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During the breakup the most important thing was saving my relationship, keeping my marriage together and avoiding divorce. Oh there were times it looked bleak and impossible, because sometimes a couple just gets so frustrated and angry with each other that it seems there’s no place to go but apart. And we did part…for a while.

Saving my relationship, family and way of life was my first priority, but I didn’t have a clue what to do. Being faced with such a challenge made me willing, for the first time, to explore other options through counseling, books, and probably the most important thing…self reflection. As I stepped back from my troubled marriage, and the desperation of saving my relationship, I could begin to be open to the good advice found through my reading and the experience of others. When you’re lost and afraid that you might not ever get back together this is very difficult to do, but take a deep breath and calm down so that you can take the next step.

The next step is to just step back. I stopped the demanding phone calls and emails. I quit trying to “run into” my ex. I began to focus on things I enjoyed doing, and friends that I had neglected. Doing these things occupied my brain so I couldn’t wallow is fear and grief. It’s simple distraction. When you can’t stop thinking about one thing, distract yourself with something else. With my ex, I just pulled back and instead of focusing on them I took stock of my own life and what had gotten me to this place. Doing this was painful, but it taught me a lot about myself, and in the end was the key to saving my relationship, marriage and family. I learned that just because you don’t feel like doing something, doesn’t mean you shouldn’t. Most of the time, in relationships, it means you should.

There’s truth to the old saying “If you love something set it free, if it comes back to you it’s yours, if it doesn’t it never was.” This is easier said than done, of course, but I have found it to be absolutely true. Be open to advice, learn from your mistakes, and seek to discover how and what to do from other people who have been through what you’re going through. Saving my relationship was certainly worth all the struggles and has made me believe in the power of love.

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It is not like the two of you had some kind of knock down drag out fight awhile back and are still living with the fallout. There are times when everything seems normal within your marriage relationship but you and your spouse know that this is not the case. There is a tension between the two of you that threatens to explode to the surface and neither of you knows why.

The breakup of a marriage can take many forms. The two of you can tell yourselves. Each other and anyone who will listen how wonderful things are and the next thing you know you are standing in divorce court.

You married this person and still love them but you feel things are moving in the wrong direction. As bad as things appear to be the fact that you recognize what is going on is a positive indicator.

1. Visit a Marriage Counselor

This is usually a last resort for many couples. They wait until their marriage relationship has disintegrated before they decide to get help. By then it is too late. A good marriage counselor can help you before things get completely out of whack. Periodic visits can not only help you put the pieces back in place but help strengthen the relationship as a whole.

2. Are You Okay?

If your spouse asks you that question then answer it. Do not tell them you are fine when it is obvious you are seething on the inside. If you or your spouse needs to vent than by all means go for it and long as you set some guidelines like no personal attacks on each other.

3. The Magic Touch

If you and your spouse are on bad terms you can make the situation a lot better by reaching out to each other. That means make the physical connection like giving a hug or a kiss. Gently grab their hand and start stroking it. Invade their space with a smile. Anything that reconnects the two of you.

4. Make the World Go Away

For a little while anyway. It can easily crowd in and make any problems the two of you are having worse. So schedule some quality time together and stick to it. Tell yourself that nothing at this moment is more important than being with you spouse.

5. Careful of Family and Friends

They mean well but sometimes when you are having marital issues they are quick to offer advice. The wrong kind which only hardens your position. Therefore if you are having problems be very selective in whom you tell.

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